Zen (avatar)
updated 2 months ago


Seriously contemplating making changes to my career. It’s been quite a while at the same place, and somehow is increasingly taking a toll on myself. The environment, the expectations. While I want to stay at the same place because of familiarity to become pregnant (supposedly the most ideal?), but what if the very environment I’m in is the one hindering me?

So what if I become pregnant at a new place?Just take it in my stride right 桥到船头自然直 isn’t it. Can’t possibly stay at the same point because of this reason and hold myself back and miss out on opportunities.

I had the chance to move out last year, but gave it up because I still had some hope that I can perform and get recognised for the hard work. But I’m starting to lose faith in the leadership, in the direction, in the overall environment, and why should I continue to torture myself when i have the ability to move. Maybe same shit, different hole, but for higher pay, money can bring up the happiness to a certain extent. That’s just my point of view.

Day 115

Thursday, 25 Apr 2019

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dimplegirl (avatar)

dimplegirl If it’s making you think so much, I think it’s the right time to move already. Just started sending out resume and try ◡̈ jia you!

2 months ago

Poshcode (avatar)

Poshcode I am always v worrisome of changing job last time so i have been in the same coy for God’s sake 10 over yrs since I graduated first job. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I always scared what if preg or what if new place doesn’t like me if I got preg just after joining... think so much I tried so many yrs liao my frd told me someone would have already jumped and work 2-3 yrs and can jump again liao. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ Lol.

Luckily now my coy started to give me some opportunity and progress and yes I’m staying. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Any chance to change ur current environment if u continue to stay? Any progression? But some of my frds not so ambitious they are ok with status quo, ok with little progression and less stress, after all life is short so yes dun torture yourself, see which one is ur preference. Good luck!!!

2 months ago

thegalwholovesclouds (avatar)

thegalwholovesclouds I remember a few yrs back, I hesitated to make the move for similar reasons like you. Then I was thinking this would be a good and familiar environment to bfp but then I realised that as I work, the stress and environment is actually not conducive to preg for me. In fact, so hard to bfp because high stress level. Finally I decided enough is enough. Find new job and then see what happens. It was only then that I realised in my new job (my current job) that I have so much more worklife balance which is even more conducive to ttc. End of day, if it is not working out, I believe it will never work out. No point to hang on and hope things will get better because I believe at times change of environment may also be better. Hope this helps 🤗

1 month ago

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