The bumbling bee (avatar)
updated 1 month ago

It’s 3am and I’m wide awake

I blame it on the coffee I drank at 11pm. I make some weird decisions sometimes. Soup’s sleeping soundly beside me and it’s quite reassuring his snores are.

I’m officially unemployed after my graduation on the 11th of January. Have been looking for jobs for well over half a year now and haven’t got too lucky.

I’m a bit restless but Soup has been reassuring me that it’s good that I’m having time off for myself after a year of stress that caused havoc for both my physical and mental health.

I’m waiting earnestly to hear back from a job application I sent in last week. It’s a position that my mentor recommended for me and she has vouched for me when the hiring manager asked her regarding my application so keeping fingers crossed that I at least get to the interview stage.

I have learnt to not get my own hopes up too high because you know what they say about higher expectations bring you greater disappointments.

Have lower expectations, give it your all and hope to be surprised

Obviously we only like to talk about good news and not really about the struggles. So my family has obviously not been kept in the loop about my jobseeking misadventures.

My mum recently told me that my dad was unhappy about me not flying back to Singapore right after being done with my degree in September and not looking for a job.

I was instantly defensive.

My time left abroad was limited. And it didnt make sense for me to fly home and then fly back. I was looking for jobs.

I just didn’t say anything.

Plus I think after a year of working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, I deserved some time off for myself to recover.

I don’t think I was wrong in being selfish. And I was upset that people think that I’m not trying just because I don’t broadcast every single aspect of my life every day.

The best testament is the amount of CVs I’ve tailored to the positions I was applying for, the amount of rejection emails and all the job alerts I’ve set up.

I don’t and shouldn’t have to owe anyone any explanation.

Anyway. Got that off my chest.

I’m just a teeny weeny bit upset and angry. Because you know how I don’t like being wronged. And it makes me so frustrated.

Especially when I know I deserve a rest. My mental health took a backseat and I’m just recovering from it. Beta-blockers used to be my best friend if I even want to be semi-productive.

My physical health is ... interesting. I’m just waiting to go home now just so that I would be in good hands.

In all other news, I am going to miss Soup and his fam.

His mum is so adorable and she’s always so happy to see me. And Siggy is genuinely upset to see me go.

I’m also going to miss Kate, Gabbi’s dog thatvI always hang out with after riding horsie with Soup’s Mum

And dear Askan who did not like going out in a snow/hail storm

Soup asked me why do I always post snippets of our daily talks onto instagram

I told him, it’s because when I miss him. I have got some sort of tangible stuff to look at and I will always be reminded of why I love him.

Soup was out today running errands and I got to sign for parcels

Normally I wouldnt have to speak too much German. But this time round the DHL guy asked (in german of course) for name, which I managed to catch and reply.

Then he asked me about something else which I got very confused about then it struck me that he’s asking for me to keep the parcels for the neighbour !

I used some really broken German (das ? Mit mir?) and then he said yes. And I was like ja, kein problem !

I felt a little accomplished lmao

Day 29

Tuesday, 29 Jan 2019

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keldanotzelda (avatar)

keldanotzelda yes, you don't owe anyone any explanation. rooting for you sis. I believe in you! all the best in your job search, and see you in 2/3 days!

1 month ago

summerflyy (avatar)

summerflyy @keldanotzelda see you my sis ! I am hoping for good news

1 month ago

kellyhosanna (avatar)

kellyhosanna Jiayou sis in your job search!

1 month ago

summerflyy (avatar)

summerflyy @kellyhosanna thanks sis !

1 month ago

kobenhamburg (avatar)

kobenhamburg if you have a limited time to be in europe to look for a job, there’s nothing wrong to stay and try as hard as possible! I keep my fingers crossed for you! And I’ve read your posts about you and Soup. it’s so sweetttt!! Did you both get together with you just asking him “to date you” and then he agreed? That’s really cuteee!!

1 month ago

summerflyy (avatar)

summerflyy @kobenhamburg I know ! I’m a bit torn between going home and applying for the jobseeker visa to stay with Soup for a bit or just finding a job back home and getting the experience I need ! And thank you for your well wishes ! And yes ! He did agree when I was just like, I AM INTERESTED IN YOU AND WANT TO DATE YOU, DO YOU WANT TO DATE ME ?! And then somehow we survived close to three years lmao

1 month ago

kobenhamburg (avatar)

kobenhamburg i think you just have to decide whether you want to stay in Germany or not. And if in Germany, then for sure you have to make good use of the limited time you’ve there! And you and Soup are so cute ☺️☺️☺️

1 month ago

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