Wedding video is up! Finally putting this up after the talk 😅
Bet you wouldn't be able to tell it was a budget wedding if I didn't tell you guys right? None of my guests realised (with the exception of my really good friends who know how I feel towards overspending on weddings) and most actually thought this cost us at least $50k given that we had to tailor to a huge party of 300 guests. #dayrebrides #diybrides #diybride #dayrebride #weddings
What we had:
🍴 8 main courses for food
🍜 3 live food stations serving carved meats, laksa and a gelato 🍦 cart
🍰 a styled dessert table with 8 types of desserts and over 500 servings
🎂 a 3-tiered wedding cake
🍻🍷 beer and alcohol
📷 a life-sized Cinderella carriage
🌸 a garden aisle and floral arch
💝 thematic venue decor and styling
I designed the table floorplan from scratch! Left side of the aisle was for my family and friends, whereas N's side was on the right. Each side consisted of 2 rows of long dining tables from the stage to the back of the hall, flanked by an L-shaped arrangement of paired Tiffany chairs.
Was a bit annoyed that people were trying to talk me out of my floorplan design, especially some of the vendors, who said they've never seen any wedding done up this way before and that the layout wouldn't work.
IT IS MY WEDDING SO I'M GONNA DO THINGS MY WAY
So what if the standard defaults are rounded tables or just long tables? I wanted a mix of aisle and front seats, long tables and cocktail tables, and did just that! The only folks supportive of my idea were the guys from Singapore Tentage lor, who simply nodded their head and kept reassuring me that they could execute "anything I wanted" as long as I was happy.
Loved the positive attitude! And they really pulled it off! And see, our guests loved the way I designed the space in the end la!
I was the FIRST bride to bring in tables and a floral arch on stage
So obviously back then the venue folks weren't very keen cos all the weddings they've hosted were fairly typical (only seated Tiffany chairs), and while they relented in the end (cos I insisted), I was made to pay a $700 safety deposit to pay for any SCRATCHES on their precious floor from the tables and arch.
I trusted InsidetheKnot and Singapore Tentage, so I took the gamble. And won 😉😌
And after I pulled mine off successfully, the venue now offers long dining tables and round table banquet options. Remember that I did it first ah and proved it was possible to use the space for more than just one layout 😉😏 future brides there are super lucky please, you've no idea how much objection I had to overcome just because I was the first!
Objection 2: Getting our food from a caterer
Another major hurdle I faced on our wedding journey was getting my parents and relatives to come around to the idea that food catering didn't mean lower quality food.
All the elders were so used to attending hotel weddings and restaurants that they were VERY SKEPTICAL when I said I was gonna get a food caterer.
One of them even said, "You don't so cheap can? Your guests will give you the angpaos to cover cost de. Everyone knows food caterers cannot compare to hotel standard."
😡😡 WAH I TELL YOU, I RAGED. First of all, DON'T YOU DARE CALL ME A CHEAPO BRIDE. (read my post again on what's the difference between cheapos and frugal folks @sgbudgetbabe:220417)
Secondly, the food caterer I found actually hire ex-hotel chefs and all so how are they any inferior?!? Just because their prices are lower?!? Don't so superficial can? Price is not always equal to quality plz, most of the time you're just paying for the brand markups 😑
Third, isn't this MY wedding? Since when do you get to make the decisions?!?
Fourth, just because your other friends and nieces held their weddings at fancy 4-star hotels doesn't mean I've to do the same right?!? They work in banking and earn shitloads of money, but me leh?!? It took me a whole year to save $20k and you want me to splurge 2+ years of savings on a freaking ONE-DAY wedding affair?
Thanks but no thanks. I refuse to conform.
And most importantly, why the heck should I expect my guests to pay for my costs?!? (for the record, I had quite a number of unemployed friends and retired elderly guests at my wedding. You want me to expect them to give $150++ ang paos? Siao ah? Why so selfish? People celebrate your wedding still must help you pay and cover costs?)
See this horror story:
Siao one, really siao. Apparently the most expensive hotel banquets now are Ritz-Carlton, Capella and St Regis. I pray I never get invited to any weddings there so I don't ever have to skimp on my monthly budget just to give a $250 ang pao to cover the cost of me being there!
As requested by @mutiaraa my drawing skills fail so this is the best I can do to illustrate 😂 chairs by the aisle were for close friends and couples, long tables for families and colleagues and remaining friends. I really loved it! When my dad walked me in and I saw all the faces of the friends I love waving to me from both sides of the aisle I felt like my heart was gonna burst from all the love!
View from the back
@floralsactually here you go! 😊 the actual set up is wayyy nicer than my pen and paper sketch 😂
My incredible dessert table done by the magical team @mannapotcatering which was snapped up in MINUTES omg 😱😱 my bridesmaids went back to help me get a second round of marcarons (I only had 3) shortly after dinner started and all the desserts were wiped clean?!?
This photo doesn't show the full scale of all the desserts actually cos I believe the other side had servings as well.
Our buffet area which made for a lot of interaction between the guests so it wasn't a boring sit-and-wait affair.
My $250 made-to-measure Taobao white gown heh! (Please don't ask me for the link cos I've tried finding already for those who asked before, but I couldn't find it on my SGshop account history 😩😩)
How much I spent and how I did it
Many of our guests were raving to us at the end of the night about how ours was one of the "best weddings" they've ever attended. (I actually think they were being nice, but I'll accept the compliment lol.)
A lot of the elders even admitted that the food turned out to be even better than their usual hotel wedding fare. The younger ones loved the huge variety of dishes, and all the desserts.
Many of my investment friends described it as a highly interactive and engaging wedding. They especially loved the surprise dance performance ("it felt like we were paying for a concert!" 😂).
I was so glad we stuck to our guns, and so thankful to our vendors who had faith in executing our vision. Thank you.
Our cost? Less than $100 per guest.
Instagram-worthy weddings? I couldn't care less about spending so much just for a day that looks good on social media, especially since our marriage and future together is far more important. I'd rather spend the money on travelling together and building our home.
And if I can do the same for less, albeit via a more unconventional route, then why not?
Most importantly, just because a wedding is budget, doesn't mean it has to look cheap or any less inferior than a $100k wedding.
If you want a step-by-step walk-through on how we did it and all the vendors who made this possible, more details up on the blog!
Monday, 31 Jul 2017
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