missgoob (avatar)
updated 9 months ago

I don’t wanna

Why can’t two people marry and be heppi just cos they are in love?

Why need to buy this buy that buy one bunch of useless shit to only use once and then dump in the storeroom forever?

Isn’t it time we move on from senseless traditions πŸ˜‘

Legit very tired of all the nitty gritty that I need/must follow just cause I’m a freaking Chinese and just cos the names of some nuts and dates sound auspicious.

I don’t wanna eat nuts.
I don’t wanna eat dates.
I don’t want mini clogs.
I don’t wanna wear long sleeved pyjamas.
I don’t wanna buy a potty and a red bathtub.
I don’t wanna put weird coins all around my house.

I don’t wanna let a stranger decide how my wedding should be like and how my bedroom should be decorated.

I don’t wanna be traditional just for the sake of being traditional.

I don’t wanna lose myself in the midst of frantically and blindly following all the bullshit that I don’t care about.

Some days I just wanna scream, GIMME A BREAK!!!

Maybe I’m a rebel at heart.

Maybe I’m too logical sometimes.

Maybe I’m too swarmed with all these that I just wanna be defiant.

Maybe a wedding is just a show.

Maybe a wedding is a test because it will make you question and doubt your initial wish to get married. It makes you feel like you don’t want to get married anymore but if you do, you survive.

Maybe truly being in love is enough and a wedding is unnecessary.

I am just letting everything out because if not I might just combust and dai. I am SO. STRESSED.

Maybe I’m weak.

Maybe I hate all these.

Maybe this will still end up as just a rant because as much as I don’t wanna, I hafta.

#dayrebrides y’all feel me?

When people ask me “how’s wedding prep coming along!”

Day 198

Tuesday, 17 Jul 2018

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pinkblue (avatar)

pinkblue If you dun believe in it, then dun do it. I guess you can talk it out with your family. Normally we do all these is because we believe in it.

9 months ago

ivyyt (avatar)

ivyyt Yes :( I just don’t get why some stuff still have to be done even though it does not make sense now. Hang in there! πŸ’ͺ🏼πŸ’ͺ🏼

9 months ago

jocesy (avatar)

jocesy @missgoob hello there! I’m also in the midst of wedding prep and TOTALLY feel you on this. Many a times the folks have lotsa opinions that I don’t agree with so I gave in a little and in return, on other aspects I do tell them Upfront that I won’t give in & will stand my ground. Few more months to go & once it’s over, everything will be fine!! You got this! πŸ’ͺ🏽πŸ’ͺ🏽πŸ’ͺ🏽

9 months ago

themerrymaker (avatar)

themerrymaker I'm not even a bride but I feel ya 😩 don't believe don't do is my mantra! if not life will be so painful 😭 hugs for you!! a marriage is a beautiful thing! So much so be joyful about! ❀❀❀

9 months ago

Pingisme (avatar)

Pingisme If it’s impt to your other half, then treat it as doing it out of your love and respect for him? If he also doesn’t believe in doing all those stuff then don’t! All the best to your wedding journey πŸ’ͺ🏻

9 months ago

blubaobao (avatar)

blubaobao Totally feel you as I also doing wedding prep, but out of respect I still do it for the parents. Though I do make noise when they indicate that they want to buy certain redundant stuff...

9 months ago

jasraine (avatar)

jasraine I didn’t do all that tradition for my wedding. I think it’s a waste of money to buy useless stuff (to me). So my husband and I had a simple ROM and we went overseas to enjoy ourselves instead of prepping for wedding. Happily married for 12 years now. ☺️

9 months ago

sillyblurme (avatar)

sillyblurme Hugs. Can’t comment much because I’m not a bride but I feel ur pain

9 months ago

geminidoc (avatar)

geminidoc Discuss with ur family. Is ur wedding. So do it in the way u like. The items u listed up there, i done NONE. i only do tea.ceremony. As a respect to the elder ones. No gate crash. No those auspicious items. No special deco of the room (we didnt even have a newly weds room to ourselves, we done our wedding in the hotel. And we staying in rented place)
Just do simple ROM. Simple wedding. And enjoy travel!

9 months ago

ribbell (avatar)

ribbell I feel you 😩 in fact I’m experiencing a bit of crisis right now because all of a sudden I have an auspicious timing (that my fiancé and I never believed in) to follow... and I will have to wake up at 3.30am 😳 I’m in two minds about this whole (wedding) thing. I don’t want to compromise because of everything you mentioned in your post. But I also feel like I need to respect and compromise my in-laws’ traditions because a marriage is about two families coming together right, not only the couple. All of a sudden it seems like getting married really isn’t easy πŸ˜‚

9 months ago

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